I wish my fellow man, my daughters, my neighbors, my husband…I wish my strangers, I wish my blood related beings…I wish I may love you well.
Dalai Lama said, “The definition of love in Buddhism is: wanting others to be happy.”
I wish you happy.
Buddhism also teaches that love can be developed, cultivated. “Like a muscle, love can be strengthened through practice.” (www.gnostic.org).
I strive to love you unconditionally, I work to bear any of your unpleasant manifestations with grace and acceptance. I reach inward to accept and love my own Self after witnessing my own unpleasant manifestations. Many times, I fail. I do not love you well, I have expectations…needs…demands..frustration…hurt. I do not forgive myself easily for being hard. Please, give me the strength to keep building this muscle, especially after each time that I am weak in my love.
In a similar way, some interpretations of 1 Corinthians: 13:4 speak of LOVE as something active, more than an emotion. (Sorry, this is from my memory, can’t remember the source I read from). In a way, the word LOVE is describing how Jesus related to others, and is an example for us to attempt to reach for. When reading this passage, it helps me to consider this as an active practice, with all the baby steps forward and back that are inevitable:
“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things…” (1 Corinthians 13:4)
How am I if I take these words into my heart and deeply contemplate the active work involved in loving others at this level?
How can I more fully embrace this as a fundamental, daily part of my internal practice? How would those around me respond? How would the world be if we all worked on true loving, compassionate kindness?
Sometimes when someone needs me, I run the other way. I ignore, or hide or avoid you. Or especially with those I am very close to, such as the most innocent and vulnerable hearts of my daughters, sometimes I am cranky and grumpy and tell them, “Mommy can’t help you right now…Mommy’s busy making your dinner, you need to wait…STOP IT!”
I don’t fully understand Real, True Love, but I do know enough to know that in those moments, I am not in a state of Real Love. When I can fully remember the moments that I act like that – cranky, grumpy, irritated impatience – when I can hold that pained heavy truth in my heart and breathe it in, without hatred at myself, maybe I am beginning to pick up the pieces, to begin practicing the kind of love I wish to be. I see how I can be, and I beg for the strength of character to be patient..please let me be kind..let me not take into account a wrong suffered…LOVE is patient..love is kind…love is patient…love is kind…
From my heart, I so wish everyone peace, love, happiness, health, safety and goodness. Every One. xoxo